This post is part of Plan’s blog series, “Periods through the ages,” highlighting girls and the women in their families as they share period stories and break stigma in their communities.
The reluctance to talk about menstruation with boys and men affects girls and women around the world. In Nigeria, Grandmother Rahamatu says that parents wouldn’t even talk to each other about their daughter getting her period:
“In the past, mothers were often afraid to tell fathers when their daughters were menstruating because some fathers wouldn’t understand and might even blame the girls for doing something wrong — like we are following men and boys.”
“Some husbands might even avoid their wives when they’re menstruating,” she says. “Some do not eat their wives’ food, but nowadays, husbands are more understanding. There’s still room for more awareness and acceptance, especially for the younger generation.”
Her 19-year-old granddaughter, also Rahamatu, says she’s much more confident talking about menstruation since she became a peer educator for a menstrual health management project run by Plan International.
“My friends are excited too,” Rahamatu says. “Even their parents have thanked me for what I’ve done. When we got sanitary pads, everyone was happy. Having these conversations, especially with my mum, has greatly influenced my comfort level in discussing menstruation. It’s made me realize the importance of open communication and education about this topic.”